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A year-old woman living in Everett, Washington recently told me that nine years ago, she had a well-paying job, immaculate credit, substantial savings, and a happy marriage. When her first daughter was born, she and her husband decided that she would quit her job in publishing to stay home with the baby. She loved being a mother and homemaker, and when another daughter came, she gave up the idea of going back to work.
She is far from alone. Despite the common perception that women make out better than men in divorce proceedings, women who worked before, during, or after their marriages see a 20 percent decline in income when their marriages end, according to Stephen Jenkins, a professor at the London School of Economics. His research found that men, meanwhile, tend to see their incomes rise more than 30 percent post-divorce.
Meanwhile, the poverty rate for separated women is 27 percent, nearly triple the figure for separated men. Women like the mother in Washington, who leave the workforce for several years, will likely see their earnings stunted when they working.
On top of that, divorce proceedings alone can pose a serious financial burden. These burdens tend to fall disproportionately on women, and, in its usual way, the market has recognized that: A handful of firms have started providing loans —some of them for hundreds of thousands of dollars—to women so that they can properly argue their case in court.
Weinberger says that because of the inevitability of alimony and child support, she advises ex-partners to make peace with paying for support before proceedings even begin. If spouses choose to divorce via a settlement, she notes, they have a little more flexibility. Some would rather forgo their monthly stipends than swallow their pride, even if they are the stay-at-home parent bringing in no income.
I sold my cellphone for food and got a prepaid. Then I prepared and filed the initial motion myself. The mother in Washington suffers from several chronic illnesses and conditions, and while her health is currently on the mend, her savings have dwindled to nothing—having been used on house and condo payments, appliances, and basic necessities—since she separated from her husband. She has been left with no way of procuring income. Mothers or fathers without income can make their cases to a judge, Cotton says, based on their contributions to the household.
And in some cases, women get manipulated by their partners. For instance, one woman was living in Missouri when she and her husband of three years divorced. While they had no children together, the woman said she agreed to unfavorable terms just to get the process over with. He was mentally abusive and sexually aggressive, and he threatened to drag it out in court until I lost the little savings I had left.
So I cut my losses and ran.
In that vein, Doherty helped write the Cooperative Private Divorce billwhich the Minnesota state legislature is expected to vote on during its next session, according to Doherty. The bill, if passed, would make divorce an administrative agreement, much like marriage. Under the bill, couples would have the freedom to craft their own agreements in their own language in as much or little detail as they want. The forms will have guidelines and suggestions for language regarding property and child custody, as well as warnings to help make sure neither party is being coerced or manipulated during the agreement process.
To obtain a divorce under this bill, Doherty says, couples would first go through an online orientation educating them about the process. If they decide to go through with it, they would file an online form stating their intention to divorce. After a three-month waiting period, they would file the finalized agreement and off on it. Then they would receive a certificate of divorce through the mail. No courts, no lawyers, no judges. There is an option to handle it pro se, which means that each side represents himself or herself in court, filling out and filing the paperwork on his or her own, and showing up in court to arrive at a final agreement.
One man I talked to from Gainesville, Florida, orchestrated his own divorce after four years of marriage in order to save on attorney fees.
Doherty says the Minnesota bill is different from pro se because it prioritizes ease of use. He says that most people who think they can part ways amicably are mistaken. t bank s, real estate, and child custody can prove to be more difficult to hash out than they seem.
Another woman I interviewed, a mother and doctoral candidate living in Alabama, is discovering that what seemed to be a cheaper alternative— using mediation instead of litigation—may have only been a short-term solution. With this option, both parties sit down with a professional mediator to attempt to come to an agreement, and then bring in lawyers only to finalize that agreement and give legal advice during the process.
This can save thousands of dollars, but it only works smoothly if the parties easily arrive at an agreement. But the long-term ramifications have been much more difficult. Our custody agreement is very loosely defined as t custody, but now that my ex-husband has a serious girlfriend in another state, I have to seek out a lawyer to protect my parental rights. You need to be able to go back to it. If you only have a contract, it can take six to nine months.
In those months, if you need money for medication or heat or child support, you could actually die. The last thing you want is your divorce breaking on you. Popular Latest. The Atlantic Crossword. In Subscribe.Married or divorced women
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